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Our own grief
All of us
experience the loss of someone we love in the course of our lives.
How we deal with
our grief affects deeply who we are and how we act in life. Grief goes
deep into our souls. Some of us have lost people and we didn't get a
chance to grieve because life was difficult enough and we just had to
survive
Sooner or later
that pain comes up and cries out to be dealt with. Unless we have been
in touch with our own grief and mourned for the people we have lost, we
cannot help others, particularly not children, because we cannot
understand how they feel.
You do not have to
be perfect to help children, but you have to know your own pain so that
you don't affect and make things worse for them.
Facing your own
pain makes you a more whole and happy person that can function in the
community and take on responsibility. And it helps you deal with some of
the difficult things in life.
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about grief
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Nomsa's
Story
Nomsa was
40 years old when she suddenly experienced herself acting very
differently. She often felt sad and couldn't concentrate. She
often dreamt about her father who had suddenly disappeared when
she was
9 years old.
Her mum
never wanted to talk about him and Nomsa found herself getting
very angry with her mum.
Nomsa
didn't understand the reasons for her sadness and went to see
Nelly, a person who had helped other people a lot when they were
sad too.
When
talking to Nelly, Nomsa realized that she had a lot of pain and
anger inside her about losing her dad when she was very young
but was never allowed to talk
about him.
Nomsa was
able to weep and grieve for her dad and even found a way
of talking to her mum about it.
After a while Nomsa felt
much happier again.
She still
gets sad, but now she feels much more comfortable. |
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Khululeka